Couples Therapy In Seven Words

Be Kind, Don‘t Panic, and Have Faith. Psychologist Dr. Bruce Chalmer and educator Judy Alexander talk about relationships, interview fascinating guests, and answer your questions.


Are you a woman trying to get your man to try couples therapy with you? You’ve tried asking, pleading, cajoling, threatening, nagging, buttering him up, using all your favorite communications techniques–and none of it has worked. He keeps telling you why he won’t go. But wait–what if there’s another reason?

You can find out more about Dr. Chalmer’s new book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong, at https://ctin7.com/books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort


It’s here! Dr. Chalmer’s new book, It’s Not About Communication: Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong, is now available. In this episode we talk about the book, and why you need to read it. If you’re in a couple and would like to improve your relationship, you should read this book. If you’re considering couples therapy, or are currently in couples therapy, this book will help you get the most out of it. And if you’re a couples therapist yourself, you should read this book—whether you agree or not, you’ll find it thought-provoking!

You can find out more at https://ctin7.com/books.

Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show. Visit us at https://ctin7.com.

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort


Why don’t therapists ask older clients about their sex lives? Do older people even have sex? (Yes!) How do you handle consent when a person has dementia? In this episode we talk about all this and more with Dr. Regina Koepp, a founder of the Center for Mental Health and Aging, an online training resource. And it turns out she’s a neighbor of ours!

The website Dr. Keopp mentioned is  https://www.mentalhealthandaging.com.

New! You can get a signed copy of Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back at the Shop on our website, https://ctin7.com.  And watch for Dr. Chalmer’s forthcoming book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong.

Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show. Visit us at https://ctin7.com.

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort


When a heterosexual couple looks for couples therapy, it’s usually the woman driving the process. Dr. Ray and Jean Kadkhodaian have developed a model of working with couples, called Couples Synergy, that they designed to bridge the gender gap. In this episode we talk to them about their work, and handle a listener question from a woman who wants to get her husband off the couch and out of the garage to do things with her.

Dr. Ray and Jean Kadkhodaian’s website is https://couplessynergy.com.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available wherever you get your books, or go to Dr. Chalmer’s website. https://brucechalmer.com. And watch for Dr. Chalmer’s forthcoming book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong.

Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show. Visit us at https://ctin7.com.

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort


How can a mobile app help your relationship? Why is it so difficult for men to access their feelings, and describe them to their partners? How does the human capacity for adaptation sometimes work against growth in relationships? In this episode, we interview Mike Bosworth, who works with his partner Jennifer Lehr, MFT on an app called WeConcile. 

We also handle a listener question from a woman who wants to know how to get her husband to work with her on improving their marriage--when he just wants to blame her for being too sensitive.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available wherever you get your books, or go to Dr. Chalmer’s website. https://brucechalmer.com. And watch for Dr. Chalmer’s forthcoming book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong.

Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show. Visit us at https://ctin7.com!

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort


How do you keep passion alive in a long-term relationship? Can you have a sexual awakening after decades of marriage? We talk to Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, known as “The Intimacy Doctor,” and answer a question from a listener who wants to get her sex life going again with her older husband.

Dr. Stockwell’s website is https://alexandrastockwell.com.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available wherever you get your books, or go to Dr. Chalmer’s website. https://brucechalmer.com. And watch for Dr. Chalmer’s forthcoming book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong.

Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show. Visit us at https://ctin7.com!

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort


Been feeling frazzled lately? A lot of us have! Dr. Gina Simmons Schneider tells us what to do to calm our frazzlebrains, and helps out a listener.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available wherever you get your books, or go to Dr. Chalmer’s website. https://brucechalmer.com.

Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show. Visit us at https://ctin7.com!

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

Remember our most popular episode, "It's Not About Communication!"? Well, Bruce has written a new book (out soon) called It's Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong. And spoiler alert: Bruce gives away the "zinger" of the book.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available wherever you get your books, or go to Dr. Chalmer’s website. https://brucechalmer.com.

Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show. Visit us at https://ctin7.com!

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

How do you get that erotic “wow” factor in your relationship? Not just in your sex life, but when you’re doing the dishes? We answer a listener question, and along the way talk some about our own relationship too.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available wherever you get your books, or go to Dr. Chalmer’s website. brucechalmer.com.

Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show. Visit us at ctin7.com!

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

Polly and Cal came to therapy trying to improve their communication skills. Then one day they came into the session both smiling. Cal had realized something, and so had Polly, and it was making a big difference. What was their great insight?

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available wherever you get your books, or go to Dr. Chalmer’s website. brucechalmer.com.

Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show. Visit us at ctin7.com!

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

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