Couples Therapy In Seven Words

Be Kind, Don‘t Panic, and Have Faith. Psychologist Dr. Bruce Chalmer and educator Judy Alexander talk about relationships, interview fascinating guests, and answer your questions.


Are you looking for the perfect relationship? In this episode of the “Couples Therapy in Seven Words” podcast, Dr. Alyson Nerenberg explains that our quest for perfection is doomed to fail—and that’s good news, not bad. Her recently published book is No Perfect Love: Shattering the Illusion of Flawless Relationships.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort


What does it take to help love survive over the long haul? Dr. Barbara Grossman is an individual, family, and couples therapist, and Dr. Michael Grossman is a medical doctor who specializes in anti-aging. Together they talk about their ideas on how to keep love alive.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

 


Jeremy Sherman is a specialist in psychoproctology—the study of, well, the behavior of a**holes. He’s also a popular blogger for Psychology Today, a researcher who studies how life has emerged from chemicals, and a funny guy. Among other gems in this interview, Jeremy explains how he became happily married to solitude, when his lack of appetite finally caught up to his lack of aptitude.

Here's the link for the Psychology Today post we mention in the interview: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/ambigamy/202204/partnership-troubles-may-be-why

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort


Liam Naden went from being homeless and loveless in his 40s to building a satisfying life and relationship. In this episode, Liam shares with us what he learned about the brain and how that knowledge can help anyone change their life. Along the way we handle a listener question: how can she recover from finding out her husband of 25 years had been cheating on her repeatedly?

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort


Be yourself! To thine own self be true! These are modern truisms. But what if the self you are is a jerk? In this episode of our “Couples Therapy in Seven Words” podcast, we handle a listener question that raises that possibility. How do I be myself and also rein in my worst impulses?

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort


What does it mean to respect someone’s boundaries in a relationship? How is that concept useful, and how is it sometimes limiting or even damaging? In this episode, we handle a listener question that illustrates both the importance of respect and the ways people can get sidetracked by therapeutic jargon.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

 


For this special episode, we turn the tables and become the interviewees! Genesis Amaris Kemp, host of the GEMS podcast, interviews us about the seven-word formula, stability, intimacy, how we met, and a bunch of other fun topics.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort


What happens when someone you think you know—someone you love, and feel a deep connection to—says or does something you never imagined they would say or do? Is all lost? In this episode of our “Couples Therapy in Seven Words” podcast, we talk about ways we’re all bundles of contradictions, with mixed feelings and opinions that can emerge at different times. Along the way, we discuss the work of Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, whose experience of a stroke taught her (and all of us, through her work) how to get to know the four different characters in our brains.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

 


Lisa Carrillo works with couples to help them find and foster the experience of flow, that state of being open-hearted and open-minded, attuned to whatever is present. We talk about her work, and ways her understandings overlap with the seven words that are the basis of our podcast.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort


Young people are having less sex, and over half of single adults in the United States have given up on dating. Why? What’s going on? A chance conversation with a young woman, some research we’ve read about, and lots of conversations in the office led us to this topic. Along the way we touch on the topic of a celebrity whose involvement with gerbils was said to be…well, let’s say intensely personal. (We thought of calling this the gerbil episode, but thought better of it.)

What are your experiences? Write to us: judy@ctin7.com or bruce@ctin7.com.

Here’s a link to the article by Christine Emba we mention: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/04/07/opinion/sex-consent-dating-boundaries.html

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show.

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

 

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