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Be Kind, Don‘t Panic, and Have Faith. Psychologist Dr. Bruce Chalmer and educator Judy Alexander talk about relationships, interview fascinating guests, and answer your questions.
Be Kind, Don‘t Panic, and Have Faith. Psychologist Dr. Bruce Chalmer and educator Judy Alexander talk about relationships, interview fascinating guests, and answer your questions.
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3 days ago
3 days ago
For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/Lt1GOUpHFFo.
Why does libido so often seem to fade in a long-term relationship, especially for women? Is it possible it’s not inevitable? Our guest in this episode, Caroline Hood, says it’s not inevitable—and tells how couples can support a great sex life over the long haul. Her forthcoming book is Sex Begets Sex: Reclaiming Desire as an Act of Female Empowerment.
Caroline’s website is https://www.desireinreallife.com/.
Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message.
Bruce’s self-paced video courses are now available! More information: https://brucechalmer.com/courses. Use the coupon code “ctin7” for 20% off!
Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com.
#CouplesTherapyInSevenWords #ctin7 #DrBruceChalmer #JudyAlexander

Tuesday Jun 02, 2026
Creating a “Story of Us”: An Interview with Penny Goldmuntz & Michael Trachtman
Tuesday Jun 02, 2026
Tuesday Jun 02, 2026
For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/FDZUJQEnR28.
How can a couple reinforce and deepen their emotional connection? Our guests in this episode, Dr. Penny Goldmuntz and Rabbi Michael Trachter, are a married couple who help other couples do just that. They tell us about how they work with couples to help them create a “Story of Us,” so they approach both problems and joys with a sense of teamwork and intimacy.
Michael and Penny’s websites are https://michaelandpenny.com/ and https://pennyandmichael.com. The app Michael describes in the episode is available at https://10minutedate.michaelandpenny.com/.
Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message.
Bruce’s self-paced video courses are now available! More information: https://brucechalmer.com/courses. Use the coupon code “ctin7” for 20% off!
Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com.
#CouplesTherapyInSevenWords #ctin7 #DrBruceChalmer #JudyAlexander

Friday May 22, 2026
The Kink Consultant: An Interview with Amanda Dames
Friday May 22, 2026
Friday May 22, 2026
For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/Wacw1Cz7JfM.
We had a blast having this conversation with Amanda Dames! Amanda is “The Kink Consultant,” on a mission to destigmatize kink, empower exploration, and help individuals and couples build bridges so they can own and express their fantasies safely.
Amanda’s website is https://www.amandadames.com/.
Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message.
Bruce’s self-paced video courses are now available! Information at https://brucechalmer.com/courses.
Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com.
#CouplesTherapyInSevenWords #ctin7 #DrBruceChalmer #JudyAlexander #kink #AmandaDames

Friday May 15, 2026
Can a Marriage Heal After Betrayal?
Friday May 15, 2026
Friday May 15, 2026
For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/1b8w45QIbX8.
If your spouse or partner has betrayed you, can you heal the marriage? Dealing with betrayal trauma is, obviously, painful and difficult—but can the marriage heal?
In this episode Judy and I talk about the three options couples face when betrayal has happened, and how you might choose among them. And Bruce describes his video course that guides you to a decision.
Our podcast website is at https://ctin7.com.
Information about my video courses:
Betrayal and Forgiveness: https://drbrucechalmer.thinkific.com/courses/betrayal-and-forgiveness-course
The Passion Paradox: https://drbrucechalmer.thinkific.com/products/courses/thepassionparadox
Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message.
Judy’s book is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com.
#couplestherapyinsevenwords #ctin7 #discernment #stability #intimacy #ThePassionParadox #BetrayalAndForgiveness #betrayal #forgiveness #DrBruceChalmer #JudyAlexander

Tuesday May 05, 2026
What Counts as Betrayal?
Tuesday May 05, 2026
Tuesday May 05, 2026
For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/E33G8rILKy4.
If you’ve been betrayed—or if your partner has accused you of betrayal—what is it about what happened that makes it betrayal? It’s not just semantics. You can be hurt, but betrayal isn’t just hurt. Betrayal shakes your entire foundation—you not only have to doubt your trust, you have to doubt your own judgment. Betrayal trauma is its own category of pain.
Judy and I talk about what makes something rise to the level of betrayal, and consider circumstances where maybe it’s possible to rethink it.
Our newly redesigned website is at https://ctin7.com. Let us know what you think!
Information about my video course “Betrayal and Forgiveness” is at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/.
Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message.
Judy’s book is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com.
#couplestherapyinsevenwords #ctin7 #stability #intimacy #ThePassionParadox #BetrayalAndForgiveness #betrayal #forgiveness #DrBruceChalmer #JudyAlexander

Tuesday Apr 28, 2026
What Does It Mean When You Say “I Forgive”?
Tuesday Apr 28, 2026
Tuesday Apr 28, 2026
For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/9OvsfA9HEOI.
Forgiveness can mean different things—and those differences can have a significant impact on the process of healing when someone has hurt or betrayed you.
Judy and I talk about what forgiveness might mean, and how some ways of understanding it can be disempowering while other ways can be empowering.
Our newly redesigned website is at https://ctin7.com. Let us know what you think!
Information about my video course “Betrayal and Forgiveness” is at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/.
Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message.
Judy’s book is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com.
#couplestherapyinsevenwords #ctin7 #stability #intimacy #ThePassionParadox #BetrayalAndForgiveness #forgiveness #DrBruceChalmer #JudyAlexander

Tuesday Apr 21, 2026
Betrayal Trauma: How Can You Heal and Move On?
Tuesday Apr 21, 2026
Tuesday Apr 21, 2026
For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/6_CuvZO8qbQ.
What is betrayal trauma? What makes it particularly painful?
Judy and I talk about betrayal, including some insights we’ve gained from our own experience.
Our newly redesigned website is at https://ctin7.com. Let us know what you think!
Information about my video course “Betrayal and Forgiveness” is at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/.
Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message.
Judy’s book is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com.
#couplestherapyinsevenwords #ctin7 #stability #intimacy #ThePassionParadox #BetrayalAndForgiveness #forgiveness #DrBruceChalmer #JudyAlexander

Tuesday Apr 14, 2026
Why is It So Hard to Talk About Money? An Interview with Carl Richards
Tuesday Apr 14, 2026
Tuesday Apr 14, 2026
For the video of this episode, go to https://youtu.be/y74GP_wzKGU.
For many couples, talking about money is the third rail—you just don’t go there, or if you do, you get shocked. Our guest in this episode, Carl Richards, talks about why it’s so hard for couples to talk about money, and why money isn’t just about money. Carl’s “Sketch Guy” column ran in the New York Times for a decade.
Our conversation delved into our personal histories with money and relationships. We had a delightful time talking with Carl, and hope you’ll enjoy the conversation too!
Carl’s website is https://behaviorgap.com/.
Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message.
Bruce’s self-paced video course, The Passion Paradox: When You Feel Miles Apart and Still Love Each Other, is now available! Check out the free introductory lesson. And use the coupon code “ctin7” for 20% off! Information at https:// brucechalmer.com/the-passion-paradox-course.
Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com.
#CouplesTherapyInSevenWords #ctin7 #DrBruceChalmer #JudyAlexander

Couples Therapy in Seven Words
Be kind, don't panic, and have faith. Everything and anything about relationships.
