Couples Therapy In Seven Words

Be Kind, Don‘t Panic, and Have Faith. Psychologist Dr. Bruce Chalmer and educator Judy Alexander talk about relationships, interview fascinating guests, and answer your questions.


When is it okay to move on after losing a relationship, either to death or divorce, and when is it too soon? What about the dreaded "one-year rule?" And what about the kids? Should they have a veto? We talk about these issues, and handle a listener question from a man who's begun to date less than a year after his wife's death.

Send in your questions: email us at bruce@couplestherapyinsevenwords.com, judy@couplestherapyinsevenwords.com, or just visit couplestherapyinsevenwords.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit couplestherapyinsevenwords.com for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort


Can a couple survive if they can only find ten minutes a week for an uninterrupted conversation? We discuss an article from Psychology Today called “The 4-Hour Relationship,” and find we don’t completely agree on the premise!

The link to the article we talk about is here.

Send in your questions: email us at bruce@couplestherapyinsevenwords.com, judy@couplestherapyinsevenwords.com, or just visit couplestherapyinsevenwords.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit couplestherapyinsevenwords.com for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort


We look forward to the coming year!

Send in your questions: email us at bruce@couplestherapyinsevenwords.com, judy@couplestherapyinsevenwords.com, or just visit couplestherapyinsevenwords.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit couplestherapyinsevenwords.com for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort


What do you think about the possibility of living to 100? However old you get to be, how can you live a life worth living, a life of meaning and fulfillment? We interview psychologist Dr. Joe Casciani, whose Living to 100 Club offers help with these issues, and we tackle a question from a listener who is aging well herself but fears her husband has given up.

Send in your questions: email us at bruce@couplestherapyinsevenwords.com, judy@couplestherapyinsevenwords.com, or just visit couplestherapyinsevenwords.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit couplestherapyinsevenwords.com for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show.

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort


We look back over our podcast year, and look ahead to 2022. Communication (more specifically, “It’s Not About Communication!”) continues to be our most popular topic, followed by sex. (Kind of makes sense, doesn’t it!) Along the way, Bruce lets slip what he’s working on for his next book.

Send in your questions: email us at bruce@CouplesTherapyInSevenWords.com, judy@CouplesTherapyInSevenWords.com, or just visit CouplesTherapyInSevenWords.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit CouplesTherapyInSevenWords.com for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show.

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort


Want to change your sex life from meh to magnificent? We talk to women’s intimacy and sex coach Debbie Elzea. She tells us about seven things that women need for a great sex life, and answers a listener question from a woman who’s too pooped to participate.

Debbie’s website is https://moreintimacy.net.

Send in your questions: email us at bruce@brucechalmer.com, or just visit brucechalmer.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit brucechalmer.com/podcast for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show.

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort


How do you handle Christmas if you’re not Christian? Judy shares her experience as a synagogue educator working with interfaith families who want to strengthen their child’s Jewish identity, and Bruce tells how his feelings about this have evolved over the years. We handle a listener question from a Jewish woman married to a non-practicing Catholic man about how to handle Christmas with their daughter, who they are raising Jewish.

The website Judy talks about is 18doors.org.

Send in your questions: email us at bruce@brucechalmer.com, or just visit brucechalmer.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit brucechalmer.com/podcast for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show.

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort


How does faith heal people? And what’s the difference between faith and ideology? And where does religion fit in? And what does all of this have to do with couples therapy, anyway? We handle a listener question that focuses on all of these ideas.

Send in your questions: email us at bruce@brucechalmer.com, or just visit brucechalmer.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit brucechalmer.com/podcast for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show.

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort


As the song says, breaking up is hard to do. How do you get over a breakup you didn't want, when you are co-parenting with your ex and have to see them or at least communicate with them every day? We handle a listener question that has multiple layers: What can a mother do for her adult son who hasn't been able to get past being dumped by his wife?

Send in your questions: email us at bruce@brucechalmer.com, or just visit brucechalmer.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit brucechalmer.com/podcast for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show.

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort


The holidays are supposed to be times of family togetherness and joy. But what if they aren’t? And what happens to a couple when one person’s pain becomes the other’s impossible dilemma?

Send in your questions: email us at bruce@brucechalmer.com, or just visit brucechalmer.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit brucechalmer.com/podcast for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show.

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

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