Couples Therapy In Seven Words

Can You Forgive Someone Who Raped You?

The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/can-you-forgive-rape/ .

What are the limits of forgiveness? Can you forgive even the worst sort of violations? I (Bruce) have worked with many people who are struggling with this question. In part, it depends on what you mean by “forgive.” Does forgiveness have to imply that you’ll try to restore your relationship? Or might you forgive someone, but still not trust them? Could you see forgiveness as getting the poison out of you? Ann Lamott famously noted that not forgiving someone is like drinking rat poison and waiting for the rat to die.

Along the way, we also talk about people getting canceled, trigger warnings, microaggressions—basically, a lot of stuff that might generate angry emails. Try to be kind, don’t panic, and have faith (our seven words) as you respond.

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“Betrayal and Forgiveness” – It’s Almost Here!

The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness-its-almost-here/.

Bruce’s book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again, is getting closer to its release. In this episode we talk more about various kinds of betrayal Bruce encounters in his work with couples. It’s often infidelity, but there are other sorts of betrayal as well.

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Betrayal and Forgiveness

The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/.

 

What is betrayal? Why is it so painful? And how do you recover from the shock, get past the anger, and figure out how to move on? In this episode we talk about the kinds of betrayal Bruce encounters in his work with couples. It’s often infidelity, but there are other sorts of betrayal as well. We touch on secret cross-dressing, porn and masturbation, financial malfeasance, and other examples. And we put in a plug for Bruce’s forthcoming book, to be called Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again.

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Conflict to Connection: An Interview with Marisa Flood

The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/marisa-flood/.

How can you turn conflict into connection? Our guest in this episode, Marisa Flood, is a relationship coach who specializes in helping couples learn the skills they need to thrive.

Marisa’s website is https://conflict2connection.com/.

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Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com.

Reclaiming the Masculine and Feminine Within: An Interview with Dené Logan

The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/dene-logan/.

How can we reclaim the healthy masculine and feminine aspects we each have within us? And how does reclaiming those aspects help couples? Our guest in this episode, Dené Logan, uses her understanding of depth psychology, informed by her own experience, to help couples along the path to more fulfilling relationships.

Dené’s website is https://denelogan.com/, and her forthcoming book is Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine and Feminine Within.

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Unpacking the Transformative Narratives in Sexual Fantasies: An Interview with Artemisia De Vine

The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/artemisia-de-vine/.

Our guest in this episode, Artemisia De Vine, is an expert on sexual fantasies, an expertise she developed through her work as a professional dominatrix. We talk about the meaning of sexual fantasies, and how understanding them can unlock deeper connection and spiritual growth. Her forthcoming book is The Spirituality of Smut: The Surprising Wisdom of Sexual Fantasies.

Artemisia’s website is https://www.artemisiadevine.com/.

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Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com.

Simple Sex Education, and Connecting with Your Erotic Self: An Interview with Sarah Watson

The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/sarah-watson/.

Sarah Watson is a sex therapist and educator. Having grown up with little education about sex herself, Sarah now works with parents to help them have age-appropriate conversations with their kids about sex. Sarah also cohosts a podcast about menstruation with a focus on people who have bleeding disorders or experience extreme menstrual bleeding.

Sarah’s website is https://simplesexeducation.com, and her Instagram handle is @swsxtherapy.

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177 Lovers and Counting: An Interview with Sexual Anthropologist Dr. Leanna Wolfe

The video of this episode is at https://youtu.be/OBA56wRhpI4.

Our guest for this episode, Dr. Leanna Wolfe, was an anthropologist at heart before she knew the term. She tells us about her own experiences of sexual exploration, her anthropological work in Mexico, India, Papua New Guinea, and Africa, and her studies of polygamy, polyamory, and sexual violence.

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Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com.