Couples Therapy In Seven Words

Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong! Episode 46

Everything you know about couples therapy is wrong! Well, maybe not everything. But we talk about what happens when your therapist puts their precious theories ahead of actual people, who somehow refuse to behave like the manual says. Join us as Bruce manages to insult Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Non-Violent Communication, and even his own ideas, smiling all the while. 

Send in your questions: email us at bruce@brucechalmer.com, or just visit brucechalmer.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit brucechalmer.com/podcast for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

Five Ridiculous Rules for Communicating with Your Partner - Episode 45

Rules for communication! Everyone wants rules for communication! Of dozens of possibilities, here are five popular, common-sense rules--all of them ridiculous. 

Send in your questions: email us at bruce@brucechalmer.com, or just visit brucechalmer.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit brucechalmer.com/podcast for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

I Watch Porn. Do I Need to Tell My Partner? Episode 44

We're responding to a provocative question posed by a letter to Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus: If you watch porn, do you have to tell your partner about it? What are the pros and cons? Is porn okay at all, and if it is, how should a couple deal with it?

Send in your questions: email us at bruce@brucechalmer.com, or just visit brucechalmer.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit brucechalmer.com/podcast for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

Communication, Sex, Intimacy--We're Live! Episode 43

We're live! (Well, we taped before a live audience!) Check out our discussion of communication (it's still not about communication!), sex, intimacy, and other topics, with provocative and personal questions from our audience. Thanks to Temple Sinai in South Burlington, Vermont for hosting this event.

Send in your questions: email us at bruce@brucechalmer.com, or just visit brucechalmer.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit brucechalmer.com/podcast for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

Beshert: Our Own Love Story - Episode 42

We talk about a lot of couples. But what about our own story? Thanks to a listener question, we tell all (well, we tell a lot!).

Send in your questions: email us at bruce@brucechalmer.com, or just visit brucechalmer.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit brucechalmer.com/podcast for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

Sex Points: An Interview with Author and Sex Therapist Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus - Episode 41

Did you know that sexual desire and sexual arousal aren't the same--that you can be capable of arousal but have little desire, or have a lot of desire but experience little arousal? We have a lively, engaging interview with the Orthodox Sex Guru and Queen of Vibrators herself, Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, whose book Sex Points was released earlier this year. 

The series on vibrators Bat Sheva mentions can be found here.

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by the Fyre and Lightning Consort. Visit us at brucechalmer.com/podcast. Get Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark here or wherever you get books.

Humor, Improv, and Relationships: An Interview with Izzy Gesell - Episode 40

What's funny got to do with couples therapy? We talk to Izzy Gesell, a funny man who teaches us how to let ourselves be vulnerable enough to risk being foolish--and along the way, opens our hearts. We play an improv game to illustrate that takes a rather risqué turn!

Izzy's website is IzzyG.com.

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by the Fyre and Lightning Consort. Visit us at brucechalmer.com/podcast. Get Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark here or wherever you get books.

I Had An Affair. Am I a Total Screw-Up? Episode 39

If you had an affair, are you a total screw-up? Is there hope for healing? What if your partner cheated? Spoiler alert: Healing is possible--but it's not easy. We talk about cheating, guilt, apologies, and the possibility that a couple can survive an affair. And we handle a listener question from someone who's in the middle of it.

Send in your questions: email us at bruce@brucechalmer.com, or just visit brucechalmer.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit brucechalmer.com/podcast for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show.

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort