Couples Therapy In Seven Words

How to End ”I Get It; I Lost It” - An Interview with Lisa Carrillo

Lisa Carrillo works with couples to help them find and foster the experience of flow, that state of being open-hearted and open-minded, attuned to whatever is present. We talk about her work, and ways her understandings overlap with the seven words that are the basis of our podcast.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

Why is Dating So Horrible These Days?

Young people are having less sex, and over half of single adults in the United States have given up on dating. Why? What’s going on? A chance conversation with a young woman, some research we’ve read about, and lots of conversations in the office led us to this topic. Along the way we touch on the topic of a celebrity whose involvement with gerbils was said to be…well, let’s say intensely personal. (We thought of calling this the gerbil episode, but thought better of it.)

What are your experiences? Write to us: judy@ctin7.com or bruce@ctin7.com.

Here’s a link to the article by Christine Emba we mention: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/04/07/opinion/sex-consent-dating-boundaries.html

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

 

When is Enough Enough?

When is it time to pull the plug on a relationship? In this episode, a listener brings us his dilemma: How can he talk to his partner about their relationship, when she freaks out if he raises the topic? And how can he decide what he wants himself?

We also give a tribute to our dear friend Bev Bettman. And we invite listeners to weigh in on one of the central concepts Bruce is working on for his next book: what happens when ideas harden into ideologies?

Here’s the link to the Seven Days article profiling us.

Send in your questions: email us at bruce@CTin7.com, judy@CTin7.com, or just visit CTin7.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit CTin7.com for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show.

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

Wait…Who Are You? You’ve Gone All Religious On Me!

What do you do when your previously non-religious partner gets religious--and you have no desire to go along on the journey? Can a marriage survive this kind of change? We talk about how couples handle this in practice, and answer a listener question about it.

Here’s the link to the Seven Days article profiling us.

Send in your questions: email us at bruce@CTin7.com, judy@CTin7.com, or just visit CTin7.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit CTin7.com for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show.

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

 

A Great Marriage, But…No Sex! What Can We Do?

Kate has a lovely marriage—they’re kind, considerate, and deeply bonded to each other. But Kate’s already low libido pretty much tanked after menopause. What can they do? In this episode we talk about some of the options, with particular reference to Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus’s book Sex Points.

Here’s the link to the Seven Days article profiling us.

Send in your questions: email us at bruce@CTin7.com, judy@CTin7.com, or just visit CTin7.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit CTin7.com for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show.

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

How Can a Card Game Help Your Relationship? An Interview with Diana Indries

Can a card game for couples help your relationship? In this episode we interview Diana Indries, co-creator of the Better Topics for Couples card game. Diana explains the game and how she came to invent it with her husband, and takes us through some of the questions. Find out more about the game at bettertopics.com.

Here’s the link to the Seven Days article profiling us.

Send in your questions: email us at bruce@CTin7.com, judy@CTin7.com, or just visit CTin7.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit CTin7.com for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show.

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

Talking Sh*t About Talking Sh*t About Death: An Interview with Diane Sullivan

Diane Sullivan is known as "The Rev," and is the art director of Seven Days, a newspaper in Vermont, for which she does an advice column. She is also the host of a podcast, "Talking Sh*t About Death." We have a delightful conversation with Diane about those pursuits, about her late husband's pee pictures, about a listener question, and...well, all sorts of things!

Send in your questions: email us at bruce@couplestherapyinsevenwords.com, judy@couplestherapyinsevenwords.com, or just visit couplestherapyinsevenwords.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit couplestherapyinsevenwords.com for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show.

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort

My Wife Found Out I Cross-Dress. Help!

Cross-dressing is not all that unusual among heterosexual men, but their wives are usually not very happy about it. We handle a question from a listener who hid his cross-dressing secret from his wife for decades, only to be discovered. Now what?

Here’s the link to the Seven Days article profiling us.

Send in your questions: email us at bruce@couplestherapyinsevenwords.com, judy@couplestherapyinsevenwords.com, or just visit couplestherapyinsevenwords.com. We'd love to hear from you!

And let us know if you'd like to be interviewed on the show! Visit couplestherapyinsevenwords.com for more information.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show.

Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort