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Be Kind, Don‘t Panic, and Have Faith. Psychologist Dr. Bruce Chalmer and educator Judy Alexander talk about relationships, interview fascinating guests, and answer your questions.
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Friday Dec 16, 2022
Friday Dec 16, 2022
Addiction and substance issues come up in couples therapy a lot, even for those of us who aren’t substance abuse counselors. In this episode we talk about how substance issues can affect couples, and handle a question from a woman, herself in recovery, who is worried her husband has relapsed and is angrily denying it.
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You can find out more about Dr. Chalmer’s new book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong, at https://ctin7.com/books.
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Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort
Friday Dec 09, 2022
Friday Dec 09, 2022
For a lot of people, Christmas is not “the most wonderful time of the year.” If you’ve lost a loved one, or are estranged from some of your family, Christmas can present a painful dilemma: Should you put yourself through family gatherings when they’re likely to be painful? How do you decide?
Then we handle a listener question from Lexi, who lost her brother to a drug overdose and is trying to decide whether to go to her in-laws for a family gathering, even though she had heard them make disparaging comments about her brother at his wake.
We'd like to hear from you about your experiences that might be similar to Lexi's. Have you lost someone just before Christmas? Or have you been hurt by a family member to the extent that you're not sure if you can be at a gathering with them unless you work it out first? Let us know. Go to https://ctin7.com, and scroll down to the “Submit a Question” button, and tell us your story. We might want to interview you for a future episode.
You can find out more about Dr. Chalmer’s new book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong, at https://ctin7.com/books.
Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show. Visit us at https://ctin7.com.
Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort
Saturday Dec 03, 2022
Saturday Dec 03, 2022
Can foods enhance your sex life? What are aphrodisiacs, and how can they enhance not only a romantic meal, but sexual health generally for both men and women? We talk to food aphrodisiac expert Amy Reiley in a very sexy conversation. Amy’s books are Fork Me, Spoon Me, Romancing the Stove, and Eat Cake Naked.
Amy’s website is https://eatsomethingsexy.com.
You can find out more about Dr. Chalmer’s new book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong, at https://ctin7.com/books. And it's the holiday shopping season! Our merch makes great gifts--find it at https://ctin7.com/shop.
Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show. Visit us at https://ctin7.com.
Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort
Friday Nov 18, 2022
Friday Nov 18, 2022
Are you a woman trying to get your man to try couples therapy with you? You’ve tried asking, pleading, cajoling, threatening, nagging, buttering him up, using all your favorite communications techniques–and none of it has worked. He keeps telling you why he won’t go. But wait–what if there’s another reason?
You can find out more about Dr. Chalmer’s new book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong, at https://ctin7.com/books.
Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show. Visit us at https://ctin7.com.
Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort
Friday Nov 11, 2022
Friday Nov 11, 2022
It’s here! Dr. Chalmer’s new book, It’s Not About Communication: Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong, is now available. In this episode we talk about the book, and why you need to read it. If you’re in a couple and would like to improve your relationship, you should read this book. If you’re considering couples therapy, or are currently in couples therapy, this book will help you get the most out of it. And if you’re a couples therapist yourself, you should read this book—whether you agree or not, you’ll find it thought-provoking!
You can find out more at https://ctin7.com/books.
Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show. Visit us at https://ctin7.com.
Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort
Saturday Oct 29, 2022
Saturday Oct 29, 2022
Why don’t therapists ask older clients about their sex lives? Do older people even have sex? (Yes!) How do you handle consent when a person has dementia? In this episode we talk about all this and more with Dr. Regina Koepp, a founder of the Center for Mental Health and Aging, an online training resource. And it turns out she’s a neighbor of ours!
The website Dr. Keopp mentioned is https://www.mentalhealthandaging.com.
New! You can get a signed copy of Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back at the Shop on our website, https://ctin7.com. And watch for Dr. Chalmer’s forthcoming book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong.
Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show. Visit us at https://ctin7.com.
Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort
Friday Oct 21, 2022
Friday Oct 21, 2022
When a heterosexual couple looks for couples therapy, it’s usually the woman driving the process. Dr. Ray and Jean Kadkhodaian have developed a model of working with couples, called Couples Synergy, that they designed to bridge the gender gap. In this episode we talk to them about their work, and handle a listener question from a woman who wants to get her husband off the couch and out of the garage to do things with her.
Dr. Ray and Jean Kadkhodaian’s website is https://couplessynergy.com.
Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available wherever you get your books, or go to Dr. Chalmer’s website. https://brucechalmer.com. And watch for Dr. Chalmer’s forthcoming book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong.
Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show. Visit us at https://ctin7.com.
Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort
Friday Oct 14, 2022
Friday Oct 14, 2022
How can a mobile app help your relationship? Why is it so difficult for men to access their feelings, and describe them to their partners? How does the human capacity for adaptation sometimes work against growth in relationships? In this episode, we interview Mike Bosworth, who works with his partner Jennifer Lehr, MFT on an app called WeConcile.
We also handle a listener question from a woman who wants to know how to get her husband to work with her on improving their marriage--when he just wants to blame her for being too sensitive.
Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available wherever you get your books, or go to Dr. Chalmer’s website. https://brucechalmer.com. And watch for Dr. Chalmer’s forthcoming book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong.
Like this podcast? Review us, like us, follow us, and do all those other kinds of wonderful things to us! It helps people find the show. Visit us at https://ctin7.com!
Music: Besamim (Spices) by Bruce Chalmer, performed by Fyre and Lightning Consort
Couples Therapy in Seven Words
Be kind, don't panic, and have faith. Everything and anything about relationships.