Couples Therapy In Seven Words

Couples Therapy with a Dead Man: An Interview with Billie Best

Author Billie Best nursed her husband through to his death from cancer, and then discovered that he had been having an affair for years. She writes about her experience in her book How I Made A Huge Mess of My Life: Couples Therapy with a Dead Man. We talk about her fascinating life, and the lessons she’s learned along the way.

Billie’s website is https://billiebest.com.

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You can find out more about Dr. Chalmer’s new book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong, at https://ctin7.com/books.

The Erotic Equation, and More on Husband’s Cross-Dressing

What is the “erotic equation”? We talk about the idea, first articulated by Jack Morin in his book The Erotic Mind, that eroticism needs obstacles to be hot. Then we revisit the topic of one of our most popular episodes, “My Wife Found Out I Cross-Dress. Help!” One of our listeners commented on the episode from the wife’s point of view, and we talk about her situation.

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And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s newsletter right from our homepage.

When you sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s newsletter (you can do it right from our podcast website, https://ctin7.com), you’ll get a link for a free download of Dr. Chalmer’s booklet Seven Words to Jump-Start Your Love Life. You can also get the book on Amazon for $2.99. But why do that when you can get it for free?

You can find out more about Dr. Chalmer’s new book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong, at https://ctin7.com/books.

My Husband Complains About My Cleaning. Help!

Hundreds of people per month, we see, end up at a particular blog post on Dr. Chalmer’s website from a Google search for something like “My husband complains about my cleaning.” What’s happening? We revisit the letter that started it all and offer guidance on how to handle the issue. Hint: It’s probably not about cleaning.

What do you think? Go to https://ctin7.com, and scroll down to the “Submit a Question” button. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s newsletter right from our homepage.

If you sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s newsletter (you can do it right from our podcast website, https://ctin7.com), you’ll get a link for a free download of Dr. Chalmer’s booklet Seven Words to Jump-Start Your Love Life. You can also get the book on Amazon for $2.99. But why do that when you can get it for free?

You can find out more about Dr. Chalmer’s new book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong, athttps://ctin7.com/books.

Seven Words to Jump-Start Your Love Life

How can our seven-word formula—“Be kind, don’t panic, and have faith”—help your love life? We talk about how those words can guide you as you do the work—sometimes scary work—of healing your passionate connection with your partner.

Bruce’s hilarious rap on the seven words is at https://www.youtube.com/?v=0cF0bO7mGac.

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You can find out more about Dr. Chalmer’s new book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong, at https://ctin7.com/books.

Do These Pants Make Me Look Fat?

What do you do when your partner asks you, “Do these pants make me look fat?” As we discuss, it’s classically asked by a woman of her male partner, and it strikes terror into the hearts of the guy. But we realized—actually, Judy realized—after we did the recording that there’s a great equivalent question that a man might ask his female partner. And we inserted our discussion of that in the episode—cracking up as we did so. (You’ll hear the insertion staring at 21:45.)

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You can find out more about Dr. Chalmer’s new book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong, at https://ctin7.com/books.

Joy Across Cultural Differences: An Interview with Nina Kako and Roger Guertin

How can a couple create and sustain joy across cultural differences and histories of childhood trauma? Our guests Nina Kako and Roger Guertin tell us how they did it and continue to do it. We found their energy delightfully contagious, and hope you do too!

Roger and Nina’s podcast is the “Head Over Heels Show” (https://headoverheelsshow.com/).

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You can find out more about Dr. Chalmer’s new book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong, at https://ctin7.com/books.

Slow Down and Find the Right Man: An Interview with Women’s Empowerment Coach Charlene Byars

Dating can be hard—especially if you’ve had repeated experiences of finding the wrong person for the kind of relationship you want. Our guest in this episode, Charlene Byars, specializes in helping women who are looking for the right man—someone she describes as a “devoted, masculine man.” We ask her what she means by that, and how she goes about helping the women she works with as a coach.

Charlene’s website is https://www.charlenebyars.com/.

As we say in the episode, sign up for Dr. Chalmer's Newsletter! You can do it right from our homepage, https://ctin7.com. And send us your questions and comments! Go to https://ctin7.com, and scroll down to the “Submit a Question” button.

You can find out more about Dr. Chalmer’s new book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong, at https://ctin7.com/books.

Mindfulness, Sex, and Vulnerability: An Interview with Wendi Dumbroff

How can a practice of mindfulness help couples when they’re dealing with sexual difficulties? And what’s the “vulnerability cycle”? We interview couples therapist Wendi Dumbroff about those topics and more.

Wendi’s website is https://wendidumbrofftherapy.com.

As we say in the episode, sign up for Dr. Chalmer's Newsletter! You can do it right from our homepage, https://ctin7.com. And send us your questions and comments! Go to https://ctin7.com, and scroll down to the “Submit a Question” button.

You can find out more about Dr. Chalmer’s new book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong, at https://ctin7.com/books.