Couples Therapy In Seven Words

Collaborative Reproduction: An Interview with Leslie Schreiber and Angela Paoli

You can find the video of this episode at https://youtu.be/6URnyujz2oE.

Our sponsor is Laria Zylberg, author of The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible. Information at https://lariazylberg.com.

According to the WHO, around 17.5% of the adult population experience infertility. Our guests in this episode, Leslie Schreiber and Angela Paoli, work with couples who have decided to become parents using collaborative reproduction—in other words, with the help of others such as gestational carriers and gamete donors. Leslie is an attorney who helps people work through the legal issues, and Angela is a social worker who helps people with the emotional and mental health issues. We talk about what people need to consider and what resources exist to help them.

More information about Leslie and Angela is at https://leslieschreiber.com/ and https://stonehouseassociates.com/mental-health-providers-burlington-vt/counselor-angela-paoli/.

Here are links to other resources Leslie and Angela mentioned:

https://www.asrm.org/

https://resolve.org/

https://vtsurrogacy.com/

https://www.nrmvt.com/

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Erotica, Toys, Porn: What’s Okay in Your Relationship?

You can find the video of this episode at https://youtu.be/aOi3PA1fs8s.

Our sponsor is Laria Zylberg, author of The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible. Information at https://lariazylberg.com.

In this episode, we talk about ways to spice up your love life. There’s erotica (see our sponsor!), toys, porn, and all sorts of things people add to their sexual repertoire. But what’s spicy for some people is taboo for others. How can you decide? Should you risk bringing up your fantasies with your partner, not knowing if they’ll be delighted, intrigued, revolted, or something else?

Let us know what you think! Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message.

And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s newsletter right from our homepage.

When you sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s newsletter you’ll get a link for a free download of Dr. Chalmer’s booklet Seven Words to Jump-Start Your Love Life. You can also get the book on Amazon as an eBook, paperback, or audiobook.

Dr. Chalmer’s newest book is My Husband Complains About My Cleaning! What Do I Do?

You can find out more about Dr. Chalmer’s book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong, at https://ctin7.com/books.

Co-Parenting with a Narcissist or Other Difficult People: An Interview with Teresa Lodato

You can find the video of this episode at https://youtu.be/hqQNIH0EbLQ.

We all encounter difficult people—and are sometimes difficult ourselves! But sometimes we’re in situations where we have to find a way to work with people who are more than difficult—people who qualify for diagnoses of narcissism or other toxic personality disorders. What if you have to co-parent with someone like that? Our guest, Teresa Lodato, tells us about her own experiences in that situation, and how she helps her clients deal with that and other life stresses.

Teresa’s post about co-parenting with narcissists is at https://butnowiknowyourname.wordpress.com/2022/09/29/co-parenting-with-a-toxic-personality-type/. Her website is https://teresalodato.com.

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When you sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s newsletter you’ll get a link for a free download of Dr. Chalmer’s booklet Seven Words to Jump-Start Your Love Life. You can also get the book on Amazon for $2.99. But why do that when you can get it for free?

Dr. Chalmer’s newest book is My Husband Complains About My Cleaning! What Do I Do?

You can find out more about Dr. Chalmer’s book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong, at https://ctin7.com/books.

I’m Pregnant and Engaged, But I Have Doubts About Both!

To see the video of this episode, visit https://youtu.be/wqdfl-Rt4Pw.

Having doubts about your relationship? Or have you found out you’re pregnant, and having doubts about what to do about that? We received a question from a woman who was struggling with both of those doubts. How can you handle that? Your friends keep telling you to dump him, but your heart says you love him. Is there a path to healing?

Want to suggest a topic or someone for us to interview? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message. And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s newsletter right from our homepage.

When you sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s newsletter, you’ll get a link for a free download of Dr. Chalmer’s booklet Seven Words to Jump-Start Your Love Life. You can also get the book on Amazon for $2.99. But why do that when you can get it for free?

Dr. Chalmer’s newest book is My Husband Complains About My Cleaning! What Do I Do?

You can find out more about Dr. Chalmer’s book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong, at https://ctin7.com/books.

 

Okay, I Had an Affair. Why Isn’t Saying Sorry Enough? An Interview with Dr. Deborah Miller

To see the video of this episode, visit https://youtu.be/_Bh4GDawrcw.

There are lots of books out there about how to survive when you’ve been cheated on. But our guest in this episode, Dr. Deborah Miller, has written one for the cheater, called More Than Sorry: 5 Steps to Deepen Your Apology After You Have Committed Infidelity. We talk about how someone who has cheated can do the inner work they need to be able to offer a genuine apology, forgive themselves, and be available to help their relationship heal, whether or not they stay together.

Dr. Miller’s website is https://drdebmiller.com.

Want to suggest a topic or someone for us to interview? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message.

And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s newsletter right from our homepage.

When you sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s newsletter (you can do it right from our podcast website, https://ctin7.com), you’ll get a link for a free download of Dr. Chalmer’s booklet Seven Words to Jump-Start Your Love Life. You can also get the book on Amazon for $2.99. But why do that when you can get it for free?

Dr. Chalmer’s newest book is My Husband Complains About My Cleaning! What Do I Do?

You can find out more about Dr. Chalmer’s book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong, at https://ctin7.com/books.

Genocide, Optimism, and Belly Dancing: An Interview with Dr. Emily Bashah and the Honorable Paul Johnson

To see the video of this episode, visit https://youtu.be/d36N0HnPuMo.

Wait, what? Genocide, optimism, and belly dancing in the same conversation? Our guests, Emily Bashah and Paul Johnson, cover those topics and more. Emily is a psychologist who has worked on high-profile cases covering terrorism. Her parents survived Saddam Hussein’s campaign of genocidal violence against Jews in Iraq in the 1960s and 70s. Paul’s background is as a politician (he was mayor of Phoenix when he was 30 years old) and entrepreneur. Their recent book is called Addictive Ideologies: Finding Meaning and Agency When Politics Fail You.

And what about belly dancing? Listen to the end of the interview, where Emily explains how she became an accomplished belly dancer as an expression of her cultural heritage. And at around the 60-minute mark you’ll hear Emily and Paul’s amazing story of how their relationship transformed from colleagues to romance and marriage.

You can find the “Optimistic American” podcast that Paul and Emily host at https://www.optamerican.com/.

Want to suggest a topic or someone for us to interview? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message.

And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s newsletter right from our homepage.

When you sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s newsletter (you can do it right from our podcast website, https://ctin7.com), you’ll get a link for a free download of Dr. Chalmer’s booklet Seven Words to Jump-Start Your Love Life. You can also get the book on Amazon for $2.99. But why do that when you can get it for free?

Dr. Chalmer’s newest book is My Husband Complains About My Cleaning! What Do I Do?

You can find out more about Dr. Chalmer’s book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong, at https://ctin7.com/books.

You’re Gaslighting Me!

The term “gaslighting” is from a 1940s movie in which the Charles Boyer character tries to convince the Ingrid Bergman character that she’s losing her mind. And the term shows up frequently in the context of couples therapy. A listener question from a woman who is frustrated by her husband’s responses to her requests for change led us to this topic. Along the way we talk about what makes for an effective apology, and the worst and best ways to talk to someone you’ve inadvertently hurt.

To watch the video of this episode, visit https://brucechalmer.com/youre-gaslighting-me/.

Want to suggest a topic or someone for us to interview? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message.

And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s newsletter right from our homepage.

When you sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s newsletter (you can do it right from our podcast website, https://ctin7.com), you’ll get a link for a free download of Dr. Chalmer’s booklet Seven Words to Jump-Start Your Love Life. You can also get the book on Amazon for $2.99. But why do that when you can get it for free?

Dr. Chalmer’s newest book is My Husband Complains About My Cleaning! What Do I Do?

You can find out more about Dr. Chalmer’s book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong, at https://ctin7.com/books.

From Sex Worker to Relationship Coach: An Interview with Hannah Spanke

Hannah Spanke tells us about her journey of healing, a journey that took her through sex work, addiction issues, and relationship struggles on the way to years of personal growth and professional training. She’s the host of the “F*** Yourself Happy” podcast—a title with multiple meanings she explains to us in the interview.

To watch the video of this episode, visit https://brucechalmer.com/from-sex-worker-to-relationship-coach-an-interview-with-hannah-spanke/.

You can find more about Hannah on Instagram @HannahSpanke. Her website is https://www.hannahspanke.com.

Want to suggest a topic or someone for us to interview? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a message.

And you can also sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s newsletter right from our homepage.

When you sign up for Dr. Chalmer’s newsletter (you can do it right from our podcast website, https://ctin7.com), you’ll get a link for a free download of Dr. Chalmer’s booklet Seven Words to Jump-Start Your Love Life. You can also get the book on Amazon for $2.99. But why do that when you can get it for free?

You can find out more about Dr. Chalmer’s new book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong, at https://ctin7.com/books.